The 6 Signs He's (Really) Just Not That Into You - Part 1
Be honest. How many times have you made excuses for a guy after he acts a little too shady after a hook-up? We've all been there at some point, most likely because "maybe he didn't get my text message" sounds a whole lot better than "he obviously didn't respond because he's not into me." Guys are not complicated creatures, and more often than not, they act a certain way – usually an obvious way – to show you that they don't want to pursue anything further with you. While making excuses may make us feel better in the short term, coming to terms now with the fact that the hook-up isn't going anywhere definitely makes things better in the long term.
So what are these surefire signs that a guy is just not that into you? We talked to college guys around the country to get the scoop.
1. He doesn't contact you within a few days after the hook-up. If a guy is interested in seeing you again, he will find some way, any way to get in touch with you. Most guys who are hoping to have another run-in with you will send a text a couple days later, but in this day and age, any mode of contact, whether it's a phone call, Facebook, BBM, e-mail, owl, will do. "I always text a girl I'm into after a hook up," said one Syracuse University junior. "If I'm particularly drunk and somehow forget to get her number, I will find a way to get in touch with her." So if you're patiently waiting for a text that never comes, he's not playing hard to get, he's just not that into you.
2. You see him out and he avoids you. College guys sometimes need a little bit of liquid courage to make a move on you, so when he sees you out in a social setting, it's the golden opportunity to try to talk to you. "If I see a girl I've hooked up with before or would like to hook up with at the bar or at a party, I'm definitely going to try to talk to her," says a University of New Hampshire senior. If he's avoiding you like the plague and happens to be flirting with other girls when he sees you out, he's just not that into you.
3. You shoot him a text…and get no response. You know that giddy feeling you get when the guy you're crushing on texts you? Guys will rarely admit it, but they get a similar sort of feeling when they hear from a girl that they're interested in. "I mean, yeah, it's exciting when a girl you like shows interest in you and is thinking of you enough to text you," says a University of Massachusetts junior. While he may pull the "wait ten minutes before you respond so you don't seem too eager," no response shows that he's seriously not into you.
So what are these surefire signs that a guy is just not that into you? We talked to college guys around the country to get the scoop.
1. He doesn't contact you within a few days after the hook-up. If a guy is interested in seeing you again, he will find some way, any way to get in touch with you. Most guys who are hoping to have another run-in with you will send a text a couple days later, but in this day and age, any mode of contact, whether it's a phone call, Facebook, BBM, e-mail, owl, will do. "I always text a girl I'm into after a hook up," said one Syracuse University junior. "If I'm particularly drunk and somehow forget to get her number, I will find a way to get in touch with her." So if you're patiently waiting for a text that never comes, he's not playing hard to get, he's just not that into you.
2. You see him out and he avoids you. College guys sometimes need a little bit of liquid courage to make a move on you, so when he sees you out in a social setting, it's the golden opportunity to try to talk to you. "If I see a girl I've hooked up with before or would like to hook up with at the bar or at a party, I'm definitely going to try to talk to her," says a University of New Hampshire senior. If he's avoiding you like the plague and happens to be flirting with other girls when he sees you out, he's just not that into you.
3. You shoot him a text…and get no response. You know that giddy feeling you get when the guy you're crushing on texts you? Guys will rarely admit it, but they get a similar sort of feeling when they hear from a girl that they're interested in. "I mean, yeah, it's exciting when a girl you like shows interest in you and is thinking of you enough to text you," says a University of Massachusetts junior. While he may pull the "wait ten minutes before you respond so you don't seem too eager," no response shows that he's seriously not into you.
