Real Live College Guy Joe: How to Make Him Jealous After a Break-Up

Ever wonder what guys think, how to deal with them, or whether instead of listening to you they just imagine you naked?  Our Real Live College Guy Joe will answer all your questions about men and relationships with wit, clarity, grace, and physical attractiveness (can you tell he wrote this intro himself?) all while imagining you fully clothed!  Well, usually – he is a college guy.

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The Dump-O-Meter: The Worst Ways to Get Dumped, From Bad to Worse

Getting dumped is the absolute pits.  We've all been kicked to ye olde curb at least once in our lives (thanks a heap, Doug*, you crushed my fifth grade spirit), and it is never a picnic.  It is really the nature of the dumping, however, that determines the moroseness of the dumpee.  I believe the calculus is something like [(douchebag + new girlfriend) – thoughtfulness] x (# of times "it's not you" mentioned) = # of pints Ben and Jerry's consumed; but hey, math was never my strong suit.  If you'd like to think about it more linearly, here's my list of ways to be dumped, from bad, to worse . . . to worst.

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Real Live College Guy Joe: Preventing the Awkward Number Request When You're Not Interested in Him

Ever wonder what guys think, how to deal with them, or whether instead of listening to you they just imagine you naked?  Our Real Live College Guy Joe will answer all your questions about men and relationships with wit, clarity, grace, and physical attractiveness (can you tell he wrote this intro himself?) all while imagining you fully clothed!  Well, usually – he is a college guy.

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What He's Thinking When...: The Guys Told Us Everything - Part 4

…He Realizes He is in Love?
 
"When I see her, or get a text, call, or e-mail from her, there are butterflies in my stomach and a smile on my face. I can't stop thinking about her no matter what I am doing" – Pat, University of Illinois
 

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What He's Thinking When...: The Guys Told Us Everything - Part 3

…You are Breaking Up
 
"I feel absolutely devastated, even if I was the one who did it. I feel so lost and alone – just really confused, like I'm missing something important" – Pat, University of Illinois
 
"What is wrong with me that she didn't want to be with me?" – John, University of Missouri

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What He's Thinking When...: The Guys Told Us Everything - Part 2

…During a Fight?
 
"How can I make her feel better?" – Pat, University of Illinois
 
"Usually she is being so ridiculous that I'm wondering why I am even with her" – John, University of Missouri
 
"Wow, I didn't know she could scream that loud" – Jordan, DePaul University

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What He's Thinking When...: The Guys Told Us Everything - Part 1

For any girl who has ever come into contact with a boy, you know that boys can be just as, if not more so, confusing than girls. Who knows what they are thinking? Her Campus does! Not so surprisingly, many of the guys we talked to share common mindsets, and let me preface this article by saying that many of the boys polled were also confused on what they thought…typical, right? Let's begin… What is he thinking when…

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Extreme Virginity: From No Touching to No Sucking, and Everything In Between - Part 3

In fact, some college women think practices that completely forbid sexual intimacy can be sexually repressive.  Alexis, a junior at the University of Maryland, says, "I don't think sex should be treated casually, but I do think that some degree of physical intimacy can be important in a romantic relationship. I think the intention of saving sex, or even any physical interaction, for marriage is based in really beautiful principles meant to enhance all other aspects of relationships.  But, especially in today's society where almost everything is sexualized, the idea seems antiquated and repressive." The women who choose to abstain, however, disagree.

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Extreme Virginity: From No Touching to No Sucking, and Everything In Between - Part 2

 
"Although everyone has their own rules, I always shake hands with men in professional settings and even if a fellow male student extends their hand, I always reciprocate," Hannah explains,  "And crowded spaces aren't so much an issue, I mean the whole basis of the commandment is to avoid touch that is in 'the way of love' and these cases of incidental physical contact aren't so worrisome to me."    When it comes to hooking up, Abby, a Christian student at Baylor University, stays above the belt and out of the bedroom because she's worried about natural temptation. "No we are not making out on my bed, no my shirt is not coming off, I'm not straddling you, and you're not going to be laying on top of me or pinning me down," she says. "This may seem prude, but it's the seemingly small things like these that would personally tempt me into wanting and doing more. It's not that I wouldn't make out with a guy, but is a bed an appropriate place? No."

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Extreme Virginity: From No Touching to No Sucking, and Everything In Between - Part 1

For many co-eds, when college isn't about trying to catch your professor saying something offensive on your phone's camera, posting Facebook statuses complaining about how busy you are, and sledding down hills on a tray you stole from the dining hall, it's about sex.  Lots of sex.  In bars and frats and dorms and cars and quads and empty classrooms and library cubicles and almost anywhere that provides some semblance of privacy for 3 to 9 minutes.

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The Best and Worst of Love in 2010

The time for end-of-year-recaps is officially upon us. Everybody on the interwebs is going crazy ranking the best albums of 2010, the best movies, the best inventions. TIME magazine makes like that guy from High Fidelity and lists, literally, everything.
There is an awful lot to rank, readers. It's been a big year. The oil spilled. The Wikis leaked. The earth quaked. We said goodbye to Alexander McQueen and J.D. Salinger—who, to be fair, said goodbye to the rest of us, like, sixty years ago when he turned into a social recluse and moved into the woods. We watched Leonardo DiCaprio spin a magic dreidel and steal our dreams. We rallied to restore sanity. We cried at Toy Story 3. We vuvuzela-ed. We demanded to be taught how to dougie. We asked and told before the 25th, which means Senate can continue to believe in both Santa Claus and Christmas miracles. And to all a good night, indeed.

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6 Relationship Resolutions Every Collegiette™ Could Stand to Make

A year in review: your love life, circa 2010. Whether you experienced a dating dry spell, a string of casual dates that didn't go anywhere or a continued less than ideal long-term relationship, you know there's room for improvement. So whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, you can take something away from each of these resolutions to revive your love life in the New Year.

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How to Find Someone to Kiss on New Years - Part 2

Challenge: Host a Singles Party
While bitterness and spite should not be your sole reasons for holding a party like this, we won't tell anyone if twinges of jealousy caused you to send out the invitations. Knowing everyone is single and ready to mingle will make flirting and nabbing a midnight kiss easier and a whole lot more fun. Come up with a cute name for the party (Seal the Deal Celebration, Smoochin' Singles Shindig, Kiss in the New Year Extravaganza, etc.) and entice your guests with an exciting line-up of old school games like Spin the Bottle, Seven Minutes in Heaven, and Kissing Tag. Who will be able to resist a night full of opportunities for fun, no-strings-attached kisses?

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How to Find Someone to Kiss on New Years - Part 1

During the holidays there are a million and one things that serve as constant, nagging reminders that we single girls are, well, still single. To really drive the point home, the season culminates with New Years, a holiday practically built around a special kiss as soon as the clock strikes twelve. Yet here we are: 60 percent of the 60 girls HC polled, dateless on New Years, looking to nab a smooch from someone special. Mom and Dad, we love you, but a kiss atop our heads from you two just isn't going to cut it this year.

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Why Being Single During the Holidays Rocks

Many people believe that being single during the holidays is saved for the brave. Between being bombarded by corny he-went-to-Jared commercials and coupons for couple's skating specials, it can be easy to feel miserable because you don't have one specific person with whom to spend the next month. But we disagree. In fact, being single during the holidays is exciting and often less stressful than being attached. For all you skeptics who require a bit more support, here are five reasons to be delighted about being single:

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Does Height Matter? Analyzing Height Differences in Dating and Relationships - Part 2

 
It's all about confidence
So what can we do to get over our height hang-ups? Whether you're pushing five feet or seven, it all comes down to one simple concept: self-confidence. 
 
"[Height] will create a problem in the relationship if both people aren't comfortable with who they are," Wanis says. We've all heard of the Napoleon complex – men who aren't so gifted in the height area will sometimes over-compensate by being overly aggressive and dominating. That's when height can really create a problem.

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Does Height Matter? Analyzing Height Differences in Dating and Relationships - Part 1

I am six feet tall.
 
These are five very simple words. They're also words that I find myself saying pretty frequently. But even though I've been six feet tall for several years now, these words haven't always come easily for me. 
 
Ever since I hit my growth spurt the summer before 8th grade (and was suddenly about eight inches taller than most of my peers), I've dealt with insecurities about my height. Admittedly, most of it had to do with boys. My gangly, awkward teenage self was convinced that she would never find her Prince Charming when all the available boys were repulsed by her giant-like stature.

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Don't Lose Your Groove Over Break: Where to Look for Winter Romance - Part 2

Coffee Shops
This one is the sober, more intellectual and artsy version of a bar. Find a table, and don't be scared to sit down next to someone who piques your interest. In most coffee shops, people are more than happy to tell you exactly what sort of brilliant concoction they ordered, so ask! "Is that a triple venti soy, no whip, no foam mocha?" you'll say. "Actually no," they'll reply, almost proudly, "It's a venti soy caramel macchiato." Compliment them on their beverage choice, and you're off and running. If this isn't your style, or you aren't familiar enough with the subtleties of coffee, just ask your target what they're reading, or what they're so engrossed in on their laptop. From there the conversation can evolve into musical tastes, literature classics, and what the two of you should do on your first date.

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Don't Lose Your Groove Over Break: Where to Look for Winter Romance - Part 1

The weather might be colder, but there is no reason your love life needs to cool off over winter break as well. Yes, you'll be home for a month, away from the exciting college parties, the hot guy who lives down the hall, and any other prospects you might have lined up, but never fear! Not only will your heart go on, the break could be a time to try something new, meet some new people in your own town, and have a lot of unexpected fun.

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The Third Wheel: How to Make the Most of Your Single Status

To all my single ladies out there, I feel 'ya. It can be tough without a boyfriend when all your friends are happily one half of two, and even worse is the dreaded "third wheel" status. But girls, embrace your freedom! We atHer Campus believe that being the tag-along friend actually has some benefits. And, as always, we are here to share some tips and tricks on how to make the most of being the third (or fifth, or seventh) wheel!

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Real Live College Guy Joey: To-The-Point Answers to 5 of Your Love Life Questions

Need polite, concise, pop culture-laden answers to your guy problemas? Our Real Live College Guy  will answer any and all questions about relationships and that ever-elusive beast, the male species, with thoughtfulness and (fingers-crossed) humor.
 
1. I met this guy at a party this weekend and we ended up hooking up. At the end of the party, he gave me his number, but I didn't give him mine. I've never been in this situation before. I'm usually asked my number, and I give it. Was I supposed to give him my number? Does he want me to text him? What would I even say? Do I do anything? We've never talked sober. I just don't know how to handle the situation.

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