Real Live College Guy Joe: How to Approach a Shy Guy - Part 2

Plus, a Facebook message is not the same as asking him on a date.  It's just striking up conversation.  Girls do that with shy guys in person all the time.  However, after you have a wonderful conversation full of theorems and computer codes, there's still a chance he will have no idea what to do next – i.e., ask you on a date.  Don't be alarmed.  It's not that he doesn't want to, it's that thinking about it gives him another heart attack.  You may need to goad him on, like this:

Nerd: so I was all like "Foucault wouldn't say so!"

Nerd-lover: LOL!  God I love your sense of humor.

Nerd: …

Nerd-lover: Hello?

Nerd: Sry, I had a heart attack.

Nerd-lover: Oh, sry.  Anyways, I have nothing to do tmrw between 1 and 3.  im gonna be SO BORED and also sitting in Starbucks all alone with no one to sit with.  Doesn't that suck?

Nerd: … sorry, 3 more heart attacks.

Nerd-lover: Maybe I'll see you there?

Nerd: … I love you.

It makes me so happy that you're going to make a shy guy's day.  So, go forth, Nerd-lover, go forth and do your blessed work.  And, for all you egg-head-loving readers who may be put in a similar situation, take heed.  If a guy's too shy to talk to you, go ahead and make the first contact.  On Facebook, in person, with a carrier pigeon – anything's fine.  He will be seriously grateful, and might pledge his undying allegiance to you.  And you won't be sorry, either – still waters run deep, and are usually really good at math.