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Real Live College Guy Joey: To-The-Point Answers to 4 New Questions About Foreplay, Flirty Friendships & Keggers
1. I have a guy friend here at school. We've known each other for a while but just became close this year. He texts me all the time, came to visit me over winter break (spent the night), met my parents, bonded with my brother, stops by my room frequently, we are flirty yet he has never made a move. What is going on here? Is he into me? I have a crush on him but I wish I could tell if he felt the same or if he sees me as just a friend. Help!
Girl Code: What's Ok & What's Not According to Collegiettes™
Your best friend's guy is off-limits. Or is he? Some girls wouldn't think twice about having anything to do with a friend's ex-boyfriend, but others manage to find "legal" loopholes and ways to justify doing it. Then there are the guys you just hooked up with – and while you know you have impeccable taste in men and can't really blame your girlfriends for wanting a piece of that action – you find it odd to discover that a friends of yours hooked up with the same guy as you. Is that okay?
Getting "Unlucky": How to Deal with a Sub-Par Hookup
It isn't just the guys who want a good hookup. Collegiettes™ are looking to get lucky, too. But how many times can we actually consider a hookup "getting lucky"? Most of the time, especially if it's a first-time or random hookup, it's awkward, weird, and just not that good. Hate to break it to the dudes out there, but not everything you guys do is Meg Ryan-in-the-diner-scene-in-When Harry Met Sally-worthy. Wise Sarah, collegiette™ of Florida State, defines "getting lucky" as "sex. And it has to be good sex. Because if you get some and it sucks... well, that is getting 'unlucky'!" Unlucky, indeed. Think your hookup horror story is bad? These collegiettes™ give us the worst (and the weirdest):
How to Save Money in Relationships
As collegiettes™, most of us do not have a limitless expendable income. Plus, if we did, it would go to food, drinks, nights out, new clothes, new shoes, new makeup… you catch my drift. Despite our minimal access to money, we tend to go over-the-top when it comes to relationship spending. From special "date nights" to constant upkeep to gift-giving to traveling, it can be tough to save when you have a boyfriend. Psh, and they call US high-maintenance. But, here at Her Campus, we care about your bank account. That's why we're ranked the top three relationship monetary drains and how you can manage them… and no, the answer is not to dump your boyfriend… OR make him pay for everything! To put things into perspective, I tallied my most recent gift purchases for my current boyfriend. The results, I have to say, were not pretty given that I do not have a job or to be honest, a lot of savings. Christmas: Personalized Scrapbook ($50); Lacoste Pullover ($70) Birthday: Gift Card ($40); Framed Pictures ($20) Anniversary: Game ($30); Sweatshirt ($40) Valentine's Day: Sweatshirt ($50) So, in total, in the past TWO months, which I will admit may not be typical since his birthday and our anniversary are just bad timing for my bank account, I have spent $300 on presents alone. My birthday also happens to fall during this timeframe, but somehow my boyfriend has been able to spend about half of what I did, which shows that in some relationships girls bear the brunt of expenses. So, how do we save? Although we have a tendency to think that guys aren't interested in sentimental value, the majority of them are! "My girlfriend always gives me homemade presents," says Matt, a student the University of Illinois. "Sometimes they are really cheesy, but they usually mean the most to me." You sacrifice time for money in making homemade presents, but it just shows how dedicated you are to the relationship, my dears! However, I will say that minimal spending is involved for materials, but the cost is small! Here are some ideas that we came up with: Since gift giving has a tendency to spiral out of control, some couples choose to put limits on their spending so they can manage the occasions. "My boyfriend and I usually put a maximum amount on how much we can spend on gifts," says Melissa, a student at Indiana University. "The only time we didn't do this was for our one-year anniversary because it was really special, and we wanted to buy each other lasting presents. We bought each other expensive jewelry that we engraved with a personal message." Make sure you are on the same page with your boyfriend by explaining how much you can realistically spend. If you agree to a number that's too high for your budget, you will only end up resenting your boyfriend… but that goes both ways, girls! Don't be offended if your boyfriend suggests a low price cap – he may not have the money to spend either! "I suggested to my girlfriend that we put a $10 limit on gift giving at Christmas this year," says John, a student at the University of Missouri. "At first she was upset, but then she realized that it probably made sense for her financially, too." And finally, make sure you both are ready to stick to the agreement. Your gift exchange will be embarrassingly uncomfortable if he gets a new iPod from you, and you get a teddy bear. Don't say I didn't warn you! To give you an idea, we have a list of cute gift ideas for under $10:
Being Single For the First Time Since I Was 13 - Part 2
After Jake, I found myself full of bitter resentment for love and anything surrounding it. My mouth filled with pregurgitative spit at the sight of couples holding hands. I rolled my eyes at romantic comedies starring Julia Roberts, Meg Ryan, and the like. I became particularly fond of saying statements like, "Love is not real" or, even more, "Love is not worth it." This angst only lasted for a few months, however. Jake and I ended in November of my sophomore year and by February I was already texting Zach daily, falling right back into my old patterns and not trying at all to resist them. Zach and I dated for a little over a year, most of the time spent struggling through a long-distance relationship. He went to college in Boston and I was still a high school student in South Florida. With Zach, so many of the other defining parts of my personality and life just faded away. I was defined by being his girlfriend. Rather than attend events at my high school, I would stay home to talk on the phone with him. I really did not have any friends while I was with Zach—I spent most of my weekends visiting him or making money to visit him. I really did not make any of my own decisions while I was with Zach—he was adamantly against smoking and drinking, so I opted out of those typical teenage activities, which, yes, was very possibly a good decision, but it wasn't my good decision. I would have rather I destroyed IQ points with liquor stolen from my parents on a Saturday night, if that was what I wanted, but I had not stopped to think about what it was I wanted. I knew that I wanted a boyfriend. That was the most important thing to me, so I did not even consider the sacrifices I was making to have that. I did not even stop to think if there were better options out there for me. Even a silly thing like what bands I liked and what movies I found appealing were altered during my time spent with Zach. I was not my own person. I was his person. I went from being Jake's to Zach's and I had no idea how to stand alone.
Being Single For the First Time Since I Was 13 - Part 1
It would be all too easy to blame my serial dating on my parents' very messy, very public divorce. It would be all too easy to cite an over-generalizing quote by Sigmund Freud concerning paternal issues. It would be all too easy to overanalyze my situation and claim that, in my relationships, I look for the love that my parents, after twenty-seven years of marriage, let go of. It would be easy, but it would also be unfair and just plain wrong. After all, when I met my first boyfriend, Michael Negie of Donna Klein Jewish Academy, I was only five-years-old and my family still went on vacations to Club Med together and ate dinner promptly at 6 o'clock each night. No, this obsession, this addiction, seems to be something innate inside of me. Being in a relationship is, if nothing else, my natural state—it's what feels comfortable to me. For the first time since I was thirteen, I am actively fighting against this. At 19 years old, I am single and I am terrified.
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